What do you see in others?

Hey guys, hope u all are having a great time at school! For those not in JC yet, all the best in whatever challenges u might be facing, take things positively, and lets keep everyone in prayer:)

This week, i learnt many things abt girls that i never knew! It changes everything lah, like we guys are forced to act more gentlemanly and stuff. We have to give up our seats and yeah, basically do the dirt work, while the girls have "the right" to enjoy!! Oh man, haha am i being too MCP?? Hope not haha.

Anw, my concern today is not with girls:) I met my class this week. The ppl are pretty much different from my og, some girls from my class are more hiao and hyper, not very nice if i said bimbo, and the guys are also more talkative. Basically they are not as innocent as my og lah. I thot they should be nice ppl, yeah but i was shocked at how fast ppl can make conclusions abt one another.

On the first day, my fren already made up his mind that the girl that seemed very smart is some really bad person. Bcos he's quite competitive when it comes to marks, so juz bocs the other girl spoke with a strange angmoh accent, he already passed judgement on her. They hardly know each other! Another incident was how the talkative group shunned the more quiet group. There was this girl who did not really make the effort to try to allow the more quiet girls to join "the group", but on the train home, i overheard her complaining to her frens that those quiet girls are not making an effort to join "the group". Well i think that's a little unfair. There are other examples, but i dun really want to mention them. I didn't know girls can gossip so much! And for the first time, it really occurred to me how much it can hurt!

For me, i am just as guilty of it. I didn't gossip, but i sorta judged girls on their looks (rjc guys are mostly despo according to someone), and i gave different ppl different treatment. A small difference of saying gd morning to a person can make a lot of difference! I treated the "chio bus" slightly nicer u could say, maybe chatting more with the pretty ones more often. When i realised this, i felt really sick inside, like how could i do this? How could i be so insensitive, to sift the "better looking" ppl from the "more quiet" bunch of frens? I thot to myself, how would i feel if someone did the same to me, if someone smite me behind my back?

What do u see in others? Do u see a person as someone who is just like u, deserving as much love as u do, or do u see someone as whatever u think u see from the outside? Do u see just another pretty face? Sometimes we can be caught off-guard, thinking we do not show favouritism. But if we are not alert, we can in fact be guilty of giving differing treatment to ppl.

We should love whoever we come across in our lives, whether they are mean or not as charming as we would like them to be. I made my decision to love anyone, anyone whom i come across, in truth and in action. I'm not going to spend more time with some ppl just bcos they appeal to my natural senses more, u know wad i mean? Sometimes we get caught up in trying to be in the hype, like hanging out with the coolest dudes, but i think there's something not right abt it.

Guys i also need some help here. Sometimes when i try to talk to more quiet ppl, it seems really hard for them to open up lah. Think i need more patience, but i seriously want to get to know them, if there is a good way of trying to help them open up, i would like to know. I'm not an expert in this area at all.

I see in others ppl who need the love of Christ, so let us do our best to show that we are ppl of love, as the bible says in Eph 5:1-2. Be imitators of God, as dearly loved children and live a life of love. I am struggling to show love to others, bcos i can be quite erm..., dao sometimes. But i want to be a warm and friendly person, just like who Jesus is. I want to take the initiative to reach out to everyone in love. Guess we all need each other and Christ's help to do that.

That was my reflection for the week, hope it's not too boring or irrelevant, cos it means alot to me. God bless u abundantly guys, missing u all alot, hoping to see u all on sunday!

Love, Timothy